The Ardent Pursuit

Ep 16 - Asking to Romantically Pursue Her

In today's episode, we explore some core principles for romantically pursuing a woman—a conversation that should: clearly state your interest and intention, demonstrate respect, and give her time to process a response. Join us as we discuss practical steps for reclaiming purpose within a culture that has largely devalued marriage, commitment, and intentional pursuit.

Ep. 15 - Tell Us Your Story with David & Caitlin Tulloch

Get ready for an episode full of laughter as we welcome our inaugural guests, David and Caitlin Tulloch, to The Ardent Pursuit studio. Tune in as they open up about the initial moments of their relationship—offering insights into the simplicity of initiating a relationship. Their story is one you won't want to miss!

Ep. 14 - The First Date

You’ve found yourself attracted to a woman and now you need to ask her out on a first date—which is often one of the hardest things for guys to do. From clarifying your purpose to picking a safe and simple location, we'll guide you through some basic do's and don'ts. Join us as we discuss five ideas that will help set you up for success when it comes to asking a girl out on the first date with confidence.

Ep. 13 - Life is Risky

While frequently willing to take risks in other areas, when it comes to asking a woman out on a date, men tend to be much more cautious. In this episode, we explore the reasons why men often find being rejected by a woman more daunting than being rejected by their male peers. The feminine presence holds a profound impact over men and wields significant power in shaping masculinity—for good or bad. Join us as we dive into the importance of embracing risk, because a woman worth the risk is worth pursuing.

Ep. 12 - This is a Drama-Free Zone

In this episode we discuss how emotional drama manifests in relationships, often as either a dysfunctional form of flirting or a type of emotional suppression. In a culture where emotion reigns supreme, we dig into the importance of not letting our feelings determine our actions. We examine the differences in how men and women experience and process emotions and the role that emotions should play in our lives. Join us as we uncover solutions and the call for men to create drama-free environments—bringing clarity and stability in romantic relationships.

Ep. 11 - Men Are Called to Lead Romantic Relationships (Pt. 2)

In Part 2 of this two-part series, we discuss the reasons why men often struggle to maintain healthy boundaries and behaviors and dive into some practical strategies to help them succeed. From establishing an accountability structure to setting clear parameters for physical and emotional boundaries, we uncover some keys to effective leadership in romantic relationships. Men are to embrace the call to lead with authenticity and intentionality, both in relationships and in their own lives. Join us as we explore the importance of leading with wisdom and courage.

Ep. 10 - Men Are Called to Lead Romantic Relationships (Pt. 1)

Men are designed to lead in romantic relationships. In this episode, we explore the Genesis 2 mandate and the call for men to bring order and maintain it by establishing healthy behaviors and boundaries. Men must lead in the areas of communication, expectations, vision, emotions, and purity within relationships—understanding the importance of setting standards, protecting oneself and others, and leading with integrity. Join us as we unpack the complexities of leading a romantic relationship and the challenges of doing so in a culture that often opposes these values.

Ep. 9 - Friendship, Familiarity, and Attraction

Why does familiarity tend to diminish attraction for men, while for women, it often brings about deeper connections? In today's episode, we explore how friendship and familiarity impact attraction. From initial interest to long-term commitment, we unpack the importance of friendship, shared values, and compatibility in building lasting relationships, as well as the multifaceted layers that contribute to genuine romantic interest.

Ep. 8 - What Should You Be Looking For in a Woman?

Finding the right partner for a lifelong journey of marriage is no simple task. In this episode, we delve into the essential qualities every man should prioritize when seeking a wife. Our focus spans three critical categories: spiritual maturity, emotional maturity, and relational maturity. Prioritizing non-negotiables, like shared values, while remaining open to personal growth helps to maintain a healthy perspective which focuses on what matters most.

Ep. 7 - Don't Be An Idiot

Seeking guidance and accountability before beginning a romantic relationship is of the utmost importance. Too often, men think they know how best to walk out this process on their own. And this can frequently result in confusion, frustration, and pain for all involved. Men are called to be under authority and to have accountability which helps them avoid the pitfalls of pride and selfishness. Join us as we discuss the value of inviting feedback and counsel into the dating process and the significance of integrity and honesty in the pursuit of a romantic interest.