The Ardent Pursuit

Ep. 71 - Getting From “First Date” to “We’re Dating”

Why do most relationships fail before they even start? Because men are winging it. In this episode, we break down a better way to pursue a woman—without confusion, mixed signals, or unnecessary drama. From how to ask, to what to say, to where to meet, this is your blueprint for leading with clarity, confidence, and intention. Stop guessing. Start leading.

Ep. 70 - From Single to 7 Kids (Pt. 2)

In Part 2, Ben and Keila share the unforgettable story of their relationship built on intentionality, faith, and a fearless pursuit. From living-room conversations and pastoral counsel to international travel, family gatekeepers, and immigration hurdles, their journey redefines modern dating. No ambiguity. No emotional entanglement. No wasted time. Just purpose, community, and a man willing to put everything on the line. This episode challenges passive romance and “wait-and-see” dating culture with a bold alternative: pursue with intentionality, invite accountability, and move forward even when the outcome isn’t guaranteed.

Ep. 69 - From Single to 7 Kids (Pt. 1)

In this episode of the Art and Pursuit podcast, we sit down with Ben and Keila, a couple married for 22 years, to hear their incredible story of finding a spouse through faith. They share the raw and honest details of their lives before they met, offering practical dating advice for both men and women. Part one of a two part interview, this episode is full of encouragement and practical wisdom on preparing for marriage, navigating the challenges of singleness, and learning how to build a truly godly relationship founded on trust in God's timing and plan.

Ep. 68 - Go Out and Get Her

Drawing from Scripture, real-life wisdom, and hard truth, we challenge men to stop waiting and start pursuing. The Bible calls men to pursue—yet too many stay comfortable and passive while years slip by. In this episode, we expose the cost of inaction and lay out bold, practical ways to expand your search: changing proximity, leveraging church networks, attending social events, and putting yourself where real women actually exist. No fantasies. No excuses. Take responsibility. Pursue.

Ep. 67 - Weak Men Go It Alone

Many men will hire a coach for fitness, money, or leadership, but when it comes to dating, men are expected to “just figure it out.” In this episode, we unpack why dating experience doesn’t equal wisdom (“practice makes permanent”), why hormones destroy objectivity, and why independence often masquerades as competence. We're discussing how dating is a recent invention and why community, mentorship, and accountability historically produced healthier outcomes. Want a different outcome than modern dating is offering? Do something different: invite outside counsel early—coach, mentor, pastor, or trusted men—so you don’t navigate the second biggest decision of your life alone.

Ep. 66 - Do Something!

Too many men wait for certainty before they make a move. This often leads them to be stuck, frustrated, and stagnant year after year. Today we're looking at indecision and the cost of standing still. We unpack why momentum matters more than perfect plans, why clarity often comes after movement, and why failure is a necessary part of masculine growth. We also explore how God redirects men who are willing to move, not those who wait passively for answers. If you’re single, uncertain, and tired of feeling stuck, then listen up. You have only one life. Don't waste it waiting.

Ep. 65 - Vision Matters

Most men don’t destroy their lives—they slowly waste them. Another year starts, intentions are made, and nothing really changes. Why? Because motivation fades, but direction determines everything. In this episode, we expose the silent drift keeping men stuck and explain why vision—not hustle, not discipline, not willpower—is what most men are missing. We break down eight critical areas that quietly shape your life whether you plan for them or not. This isn’t about New Year’s resolutions. It’s about putting a stake in the ground and deciding who you’ll be 365 days from now—before another year disappears.

Ep. 64 - Chemistry vs. Compatibility. Know the Difference.

Dating doesn’t fall apart because you didn’t feel enough—it falls apart because you didn’t think far enough ahead. In this episode, we go straight after one of the most ignored ideas in modern dating: compatibility. Not chemistry. Not attraction. Compatibility. We break down eight critical areas every man must pay attention to before marriage—including spiritual alignment, values, communication, emotional maturity, life rhythm, and more. This isn’t about fear or perfection. It’s about wisdom. Because who you marry will either launch your life forward or like an anchor, hold it back.

Ep. 63 - Move Out of Your Parents’ House

Why are so many men still living at home and what is it costing them? In this episode, we’re looking at the cultural, financial, and relational reasons behind delayed independence, from rising housing costs and comfort culture to well-meaning but overprotective parenting. We explore why moving out functions as a modern rite of passage and when staying home can actually be strategic. Comfort delays growth and capable men are forged through risk, responsibility, and forward motion.

Ep. 62 - Age Gaps: When Are They A Concern?

We’re diving into one of dating’s most controversial topics—age gaps. Do they matter? Should older men pursue younger women? We unpack when it’s wise, when it’s weird, and how maturity—not age—is what really counts. We break down why people get uncomfortable when older men pursue younger women, challenge assumptions, and get honest about what makes relationships actually work.